Pay attention single ladies because you are making a drastic mistake when Dating!

Listen up girlfriend and friends and family of said girlfriend.  

Is this you?

  • You meet a guy you like, he asks you out, you say yes
  • You go out on that date, you call your girlfriend all excited about the date and how much fun you had and cannot stop thinking about the date
  • You then stop looking at other possible men you could date in the hopes that this will be the ONE
  • You have not had a conversation with the date about dating exclusively and yet you expect to be
  • After 3 to 10 dates, the relationship fizzles out and you are heartbroken
  • You call your girlfriend and complain about men, how mean they are, and how you are not going to date because men overall suck
  • The next day you are out with your friends and a guy pays attention to you, you get interested and hope he asks you out
  • The cycle starts all over again.

Guess what ladies, you messed up at You then stop looking at other possible men you could date in the hopes that this will be the ONE.  Women are guilty of moving into dating only one person too soon.  They stop checking out other men as soon as one gets interested and they put all they have into that one man.  No wonder men leave skid marks at our doors.  Now I know what you are thinking about now, 'I don't like dating more than one person at a time…It is too hard…I really like this one guy, I don't want to pay attention to other men, etc'!

Shift your thinking! 

Instead of moving too fast by becoming mutually exclusive or what I call 'serial monogamy' within 1 date on up to 3 months of dating, choose to keep putting your fishing line out there and date other men.  I am not saying sleep with them, most women immediately think of intimacy and sex when I say date other men.  That is not what I am saying.  What I am saying is keep your options open until you have more information about the men you are dating, information that tells you if they are right for you based on lifestyle, requirements, needs, and wants.  They are not right for you early on when you are all aglow with romance and lust.

Dating is not a direct road to a committed relationship, like marriage.  Dating is simply experiencing different people, lifestyles, cultures, behaviors, looks, professions, conversation styles, and other qualities so that you can better and more clearly discern what type of person is right for you, that complements you, that brings the best out in you, and contributes to you being a better person. 

Ladies resist this advice and move into serial monogamy despite me telling them not to – want  to know what happens?

  • You meet a guy you like, he asks you out, you say yes
  • You go out on that date, you call your girlfriend all excited about the date and how much fun you had and cannot stop thinking about the date
  • You then stop looking at other possible men you could date in the hopes that this will be the ONE
  • You have not had a conversation with the date about dating exclusively and yet you expect to be
  • After 3 to 10 dates, the relationship fizzles out and you are heartbroken
  • You call your girlfriend and complain about men, how mean they are, and how you are not going to date because men overall suck
  • The next day you are out with your friends and a guy pays attention to you, you get interested and hope he asks you out
  • The cycle starts all over again.

How about hiring and listening to Dr. Dar to succeed in love and life!

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