Love is Blind but Online Dating is not...NPR Story

" Is interracial marriage a bad idea? And across the board, even, you know, among whites for example, 93 percent say no, seven percent say yes. But then when actually asked would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own skin color, white women, 54 percent, said yes, they strongly prefer, whereas across the board, every other ethnic group said no, that was not a priority for them."

I am saddened to see this story because it is not the color of our skin that matters in relationships, what matters is our lives, our values, our relatedness, our ability to love each other, our ability to be connected, our ability to be and stay together, our ability to be happy together, etc. Singles are short changing themselves by not exploring their options. I have a friend who dated a Chinese woman. They truly loved each other and spent a few years together. What changed? Her need to move back to her home country and her parents' influence on her relationships – she allowed her parents to control her choices. Those are not racial reasons, they are real life reasons that same race couples face too. Singles, be open to finding love based on requirements, needs, and wants instead of what I call Accidental Attraction, meeting someone who is interested in you and pursuing the relationship based on that attraction. Instead, identify your requirements, needs, and wants, test them, and then use them to find Mr/Ms more right for you.

Listen/Read the rest of the story here, tell me what you think?

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