Happy Holidays Dear One's,

I just saw an advertisement where the actress said "this Christmas, get your husband what you want…that way at least one of you will be happy."  That was the advert, that's it.

Television, movies, songs….all sell drama and distress…that then plays out in our lives. It saddens me to see what Capitalism in advertising has made this holiday and all others become more about consumption, wanting, and less about love and gratitude. No wonder singles are lonely and misguided on what a loving collaborative relationship is.  No wonder one or both parties in a relationship or marriage are unhappy.  It makes me no longer wonder why love continues to elude us, why marriages and relationships fail, why so many singles and couples are unhappy, and gives me the strength to continue to do the work I do. 

I wonder what would happen if happy couples were advertised showing the world what a GREAT relationship looks like?  Then, I start recalling…Another thought passes between my ears, diamond/jewelry companies may very well be the only companies that GET it.  They show happy couples…it feels good to see happy couples…even though I know they do this to sell their jewelry.  I recall another ad that has gotten way too much play time for Chase only because I am not a fan of debt…a happy couple where the husband wants to take a vacation when he sees his beautiful wife all dressed up – you know, the black and white commercial…Chase sees that showing a happy couple will create more people using credit so they can then use their acquired rewards points to go on vacation.  It is heartening to remember that there are ads targeting happy couples in a capitalistic way. 

I am a testament to the fact that Singles and Couples can be and have happy, loving , fulfilling, sustainable lives. Been there, done that…and now I have arrived.  Thank you Chuck for that, thanks Mom and Dad for loving and accepting my hubby, and thank you to me for being open to seeing the greatness that is possible and for choosing greatness.

I am putting a stake in the ground, I am calling myself into being, I am declaring that I am in the GREAT RELATIONSHIPS business.  I help singles, couples, and professionals create GREAT RELATIONSHIPS and GREAT LIVES!  Whew, I said it – that is big and now I am a stand, as I always have been, for greatness. 

Gosh, just saying the word G-R-E-A-T feels yummy, good, and elevating.  I feel my energy surging just saying this simple 5 letter word.  I think  I will take GREAT on as a new mantra to chant throughout the day…'cause it just feels good.

I thought I would share my list with you.  This season I want:

  • Everyone I know and touch to be in peace, gratitude, health, abundance, and joy moment by moment
  • My husband and dog by my side in joyous, loving companionship
  • To own our home
  • To be joyous at any given moment
  • To be open to love, life, and miracles
  • To have a full practice with singles and couples who are thrilled to work together towards fulfilling GREAT RELATIONSHIPS
  • To continue causing transformation, renewal, results, solutions, and success
  • To continue the practice of detachment and more of allowing
  • Nothing that is purchased – no toys, no jewelry, no appliances…oh, I did list something purchased – my home.

As I realize that I am living my list as I write this…I ask myself these questions:

  1. Is my list fulfilling right now?
  2. Will my list be fulfilling this time in 2010?
  3. Will my list continue to inspire me throughout next year?
  4. Will the fulfillment of my list continue to call me to be?
  5. Will my list continue to feel Great? 

The answer….drum roll please….

Y-E-S * Y-E-S * Y-E-S * Y-E-S *Y-E-S

Now, I ask you:

  1. WHAT's ON YOUR LIST?
  2. Does your list feel GREAT?
  3. Will your list continue to feel GREAT?
  4. Does your list call you to be?
  5. Will you list continue to feel GREAT?

Let me know your thoughts – comment on this post.

Happy Holidays…and a Joyous New Year,
Dr. Dar

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