It would be nice if everyone could agree when divorce was on the cards. But, in my limited experience, this is rarely the case. Often, one partner is pushing for the divorce while the other desperately wants to salvage the marriage. This  is a dreadful position to be in because you’re the odd one out, your heart is breaking, and you’re hearing conflicting advice.

Your heart is leading you to fight for your marriage while your head, some friends, and perhaps your attorney are all telling you to protect both your heart and your assets.
Here are some marriage-saving tips.  You must to understand that closing yourself off, engaging with your spouse, trying to make your spouse feel guilty, and manipulating them only pushes them further away.

You Need To Be On Their Side:
Let’s think about this for a minute. You want the divorce, but they do not. You’re on different sides of the fence. If he wins, you lose your marriage. If you win, you’ve managed to force him into doing what he didn’t want to do. So, even in the best case scenario, his heart isn’t really in it and the chances for long-term success are not as good as they might be.

It’s better to jump on your partners side of the fence (or at least make them believe you are). Doing this alleviates the tension and ensures that they begin to give you more access to them. You want to present yourself as someone who doesn’t want a divorce, but who wants their partner to be happy and who is willing to put your own agenda and wishes aside (at least for the time being) to help them achieve this.  This is the best way to create peaceful engagement such that you are being supportive and understanding – which will be a different experience for your spouse.  This re-connects you and your spouse in a supporting and promoting role which lends itself to a higher chance for reconciliation; you must be consistent in your behavior and approach.


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