I think people are afraid to get married, afraid of being accountable for their choices and actions, afraid of failing, afraid of success. We live in a fear based society. I agree couples should not stay together if they are in an unhealthy marriage for the sake of the kids – but they should get help and guidance from a professional relationship coach or therapist to see if they can ’save their marriage’ first – they will learn skills that will pay dividends in their relationships by doing so whether they stay together or not. Couples take on average 7 to 9 years before throwing in the towel AND seeking help. Often, they give up too quickly (in year 1 to 5) when they did not have critical relationship success skills to begin with. There are many facets to solving the unwed mother, or failed marriage, or bad marriage issues. I am a relationship expert and problem solver and love working with singles and couples to help them align what they want to what they are creating in their lives toward the goal of love, self-love, and success. Most couples I work with don’t know what they want, they know what they do not want, focus on that and complain/pick on each other for things they don’t want. It is no surprise to me that these couples do not make it if their focus is on what they don’t want. Singles need to have faith to make the right choices for themselves that are aligned with their core values and trust that things will work out if they do make the right choice for themselves in lieu of making choices out of desperation, desire, or lust.

From: http://ping.fm/8SWCN

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